Live In Relationship

Friday,August 02, 2019

A major psychological boost to couples who are in live-in relationships. Supreme Court recently removed the disgrace from such connections saying that it has now become accepted norm in society. “In modern times, live-in relationship has become acceptable. It is not a crime” a Bench of Justice Dipak Misra and Prafulla C Pant observed. India is constantly changing its beliefs and norms and witnesses a drastic change in the way the present generation perceives their relationships. Society has opened up about the idea of premarital sex and live-in relationships. This changed mindset is due to freedom, privacy, education and globalization. Supreme Court in judgment said two adult couples are staying together is the part of the right to life not a ‘criminal offence ‘. Therefore live-in relationships are legal in India. However it also stated that if a man and woman “lived like husband and wife” in a long-term relationship and even had children, the judiciary will assume that they are married and same laws would be applicable.

Live-in-relationship can be defined as an agreement of living together by unmarried couples for the purpose of conducting long-going relationship similarly as in marriage. Live-in relationship handles matter of premarital sex, but those couples who are maintaining relations don’t mind such things. Overall, this relation builds up harmony between the couples, but spoils their social influence.Legal system of traditional country like India had to face lots of ordeals, giving legality to live-in-relationships for many years.  And all the efforts came to a positive end when Supreme Court successfully solved this controversial discussion.

Yet it is difficult for common man to believe and accept this kind of relationship. For the sake of protection of aggrieved live-in partner, if any, the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act provides from the protection and maintenance and granting the right of alimony to the same.

Another aspect in giving right to maintenance to lady party is Indian Courts have widened the scope of maintenance under Criminal Procedure Code and extended u/s 125, to give legal right of maintenance to lady partners in or out of a marriage. Supreme Court also allowed live-in relationships is covered under Domestic Violence Act an attempt to protect women from abusive relationships. However, live in relationships are not allowed to adopt kids but they can have their own kids If they are living together for a long time.

 Every judgment comes with its pros and cons, similarly with live-in relationships becoming legal in India. Its pros can be briefed under:

  • For most of us, it is not way of escaping from responsibilities but a way to understand your partner and check the compatibility.
  • A live-in relationship not only gives opportunity to understand our partner but also excludes the chaos of family drama and lengthy court procedures if they want to move out from the relationship.
  • One of the major benefits from live-in relationships is that there is no law tying them together and any one of them can walk out from the relationship if they want to.
  • As human relations are complex and fragile, live-in-relationships are not commitment centric. Partners need not to carry burden of responsibilities that come out usually in marriage.
  • You can evaluate the areas that you both may need to work on or if you really want to be married to your partner.
  • If you aren’t satisfied with your partner or you get bored of seeing the same face every morning, then you can pack your bags and move out without any legal procedures or family drama.
  • In a live-in relationship, the couples respect each other as they might have some insecurity or concern in the back of their head that they may lose the partner if they don’t behave right. 
  • Live in couples also enjoy spending more time with each other which might not be possible in a marriage because of time constraints. A partner may not feel alone as the other partner is always with them. Live in couples are also with each other almost every single day. 

 

Some of its cons can be briefed under:

  • Society disapproval is one of the biggest disadvantages that live-in-relationships have to face. It is difficult for them to accept such relation which is beyond their long serving tradition specially the older generation.
  • Another one could be lack of commitment in the relationship, nobody is liable to one another which is also an advantage on one side as it does not burdens the person with responsibilities  but it is can also become the reason of split because any quarrel or fighting is not followed by reasoning and resolving unlike marriage.
  •  Some may even feel a sense of monotony which causes trouble for the relationship and could eventually lead to a heart-breaking split.
  • Live-in relationship leaves nothing to be discovered by the couple post marriage. Routine already sets in between live-in relations and there is anxiety or expectancy left for to be realized after marriage.
  • It is very difficult to move into another relationship after a live-in relationship. And if such a relationship comes to an end it takes a toll on the mental health of people.